Children don’t become generous because we tell them to; they become generous because they practice. The Share/Give idea makes that practice regular and meaningful. “Share” supports planned causes your family chooses—libraries, animal shelters, parks. “Give” is surprise kindness—flowers for a neighbor, a bigger tip for a street musician, extra crayons for a classmate.
Start by inviting your child to pick a focus each quarter from a short list you curate. Learn one story about that cause and keep it visible. When your child sorts their weekly money, Share has a why. After donating, look for a thank-you note or photo and read it together. That closes the loop: money → action → change. Even small amounts matter when a child can see the outcome.
For everyday giving, keep a “kindness envelope” with a few dollars. Let your child choose a moment during the month—for someone who made their day brighter or someone who could use a lift. The goal is not to perform; it’s to notice. Talk afterward: “How did that feel? What do you think it did for them?” Reflection cements identity: we are people who help.
If a child hesitates because they’re saving hard for a goal, empathize and offer a split: “Want to send one dollar from this week and keep the rest for your goal?” Generosity grows best when it’s chosen, not compelled. Over time, kids discover that giving doesn’t shrink their world—it enlarges it.
